{"id":5256,"date":"2026-10-15T23:50:44","date_gmt":"2026-10-15T23:50:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/?page_id=5256"},"modified":"2026-10-16T00:17:14","modified_gmt":"2026-10-16T00:17:14","slug":"blog","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/blog\/","title":{"rendered":"The Journal"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<style>\n@font-face{font-family:'Playfair Regular';font-style:normal;font-weight:normal;font-display:swap;src:url('\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/playfair-display.regular.ttf') format('truetype')}\n.nc-journal{background:#fff}\n.nc-journal .wp-block-group__inner-container{max-width:none!important;padding:0!important;margin:0!important}\n.nc-journal .ncj-coach>.wp-block-group__inner-container{display:contents}\n.nc-journal .ncj-wrap>.wp-block-group__inner-container{max-width:1180px!important;margin:0 auto!important}\n.nc-journal{font-family:\"Lato\",sans-serif;color:#3d3436}\n.nc-journal 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url(https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/6500601254AirBrush_20241103192410-267x300.jpg) 40% 8%\/175% no-repeat;font-size:0}\n.ncj-photo{background:#120a0b url(https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/coach-ena.jpg) center\/cover no-repeat!important}\n.ncj-sig .ncj-photo{flex:0 0 76px!important;width:76px!important;height:76px!important}\n<\/style>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group nc-journal\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<section class=\"ncj-hero\"><p class=\"ncj-eyebrow\">Nubian Connections<\/p><h1>The Journal<\/h1><p>Thoughts on love, intentional dating and intercultural relationships, with honest advice for those who are ready for something real.<\/p><\/section>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group ncj-coach\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"ncj-coach-text\"><p class=\"ncj-eyebrow\">Ask the Coach<\/p><h2>Your questions, <em>answered by Coach Ena.<\/em><\/h2><p>A situation you are not sure how to handle? Readers share their stories, and Coach Ena answers with honesty and care. Always anonymous.<\/p><div class=\"ncj-sig\"><div class=\"ncj-mono ncj-photo\" role=\"img\" aria-label=\"Coach Ena\"><\/div><p><strong>Coach Ena<\/strong>Founder of Nubian Connections International and certified coach trained in positive psychology, she helps women and men move beyond what holds them back and raise their standards to flourish in love.<\/p><\/div><a class=\"ncj-btn\" href=\"\/en\/share-your-story\/\">Share your story<\/a><a class=\"ncj-link\" href=\"#ncj-all\" onclick=\"var b=document.querySelector('.ncj-tabs [data-cat=ask-the-coach]');if(b){b.click();}\">Read the letters \u2192<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-query ncj-coach-q is-layout-flow wp-block-query-is-layout-flow\"><ul class=\"wp-block-post-template is-layout-flow wp-block-post-template-is-layout-flow\"><li class=\"wp-block-post post-5245 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-ask-the-coach\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-post-featured-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/after-disappointments-is-a-matchmaking-agency-right-for-me\/\" target=\"_self\" ><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1708\" src=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors.jpg\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"\u201cAfter So Many Disappointments, Is a Matchmaking Agency Right for Me?\u201d\" style=\"object-fit:cover;\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors.jpg 2560w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-2048x1366.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2560px) 100vw, 2560px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-post-title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/after-disappointments-is-a-matchmaking-agency-right-for-me\/\" target=\"_self\" >\u201cAfter So Many Disappointments, Is a Matchmaking Agency Right for Me?\u201d<\/a><\/h2>\n<\/li><\/ul>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group ncj-wrap\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"ncj-tabs\" id=\"ncj-all\"><button class=\"on\" data-cat=\"all\">All<\/button><button data-cat=\"dating-relationships\">Dating &amp; Relationships<\/button><button data-cat=\"personal-growth\">Personal Growth<\/button><button data-cat=\"ask-the-coach\">Ask the Coach<\/button><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-query ncj-grid is-layout-flow wp-block-query-is-layout-flow\"><ul class=\"wp-block-post-template is-layout-flow wp-block-post-template-is-layout-flow\"><li class=\"wp-block-post post-5245 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-ask-the-coach\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-post-featured-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/after-disappointments-is-a-matchmaking-agency-right-for-me\/\" target=\"_self\" ><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1708\" src=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors.jpg\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"\u201cAfter So Many Disappointments, Is a Matchmaking Agency Right for Me?\u201d\" style=\"object-fit:cover;\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors.jpg 2560w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/thoughtful-curly-female-student-looks-away-makes-notes-notepad-holds-pen-notebook-sits-bench-dressed-casual-jumper-trousers-writes-information-textbook-studying-outdoors-2048x1366.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2560px) 100vw, 2560px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n<div class=\"taxonomy-category wp-block-post-terms\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/category\/ask-the-coach\/\" rel=\"tag\">ASK THE COACH<\/a><\/div>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-post-title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/after-disappointments-is-a-matchmaking-agency-right-for-me\/\" target=\"_self\" >\u201cAfter So Many Disappointments, Is a Matchmaking Agency Right for Me?\u201d<\/a><\/h2>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt\"><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__excerpt\">Disappointment after disappointment, Nadia, 41, has lost faith in men and in herself. Should she try a matchmaking agency? Coach Ena answers.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__more-text\"><a class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/after-disappointments-is-a-matchmaking-agency-right-for-me\/\">Read the article \u2192<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<\/li><li class=\"wp-block-post post-5244 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-ask-the-coach\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-post-featured-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/he-says-hes-not-ready-for-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_self\" ><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1368\" src=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/37316.jpg\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"\u201cHe Says He\u2019s Not Ready for a Relationship. Should I Wait?\u201d\" style=\"object-fit:cover;\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/37316.jpg 2000w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/37316-300x205.jpg 300w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/37316-1024x700.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/37316-768x525.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/37316-1536x1051.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2000px) 100vw, 2000px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n<div class=\"taxonomy-category wp-block-post-terms\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/category\/ask-the-coach\/\" rel=\"tag\">ASK THE COACH<\/a><\/div>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-post-title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/he-says-hes-not-ready-for-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_self\" >\u201cHe Says He\u2019s Not Ready for a Relationship. Should I Wait?\u201d<\/a><\/h2>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt\"><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__excerpt\">Eight months together, but he says he is not ready for a relationship. Coach Ena answers Amara, 37, with five honest pieces of advice.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__more-text\"><a class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/he-says-hes-not-ready-for-a-relationship\/\">Read the article \u2192<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<\/li><li class=\"wp-block-post post-453 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-personal-growth\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-post-featured-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/first-months-of-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_self\" ><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\" src=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/2149032207.jpg\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"The First Months of a Relationship: 10 Things That Make It Last\" style=\"object-fit:cover;\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/2149032207.jpg 2000w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/2149032207-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/2149032207-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/2149032207-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/2149032207-1536x1024.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2000px) 100vw, 2000px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n<div class=\"taxonomy-category wp-block-post-terms\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/category\/personal-growth\/\" rel=\"tag\">PERSONAL GROWTH<\/a><\/div>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-post-title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/first-months-of-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_self\" >The First Months of a Relationship: 10 Things That Make It Last<\/a><\/h2>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt\"><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__excerpt\">The first months of a relationship lay the foundations for everything that follows. Ten things that help a promising start become something lasting.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__more-text\"><a class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/first-months-of-a-relationship\/\">Read the article \u2192<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n<\/li><li class=\"wp-block-post post-442 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-personal-growth tag-find-love tag-matchmaking tag-serious-relationship\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-post-featured-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/how-long-to-find-a-serious-relationship\/\" target=\"_self\" ><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1116\" src=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/20786.jpg\" class=\"attachment-post-thumbnail size-post-thumbnail wp-post-image\" alt=\"How Long Does It Take to Find a Serious Relationship? A Realistic Guide\" style=\"object-fit:cover;\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/20786.jpg 2000w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/20786-300x167.jpg 300w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/20786-1024x571.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/20786-768x429.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/20786-1536x857.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2000px) 100vw, 2000px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n<div class=\"taxonomy-category wp-block-post-terms\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/category\/personal-growth\/\" rel=\"tag\">PERSONAL GROWTH<\/a><\/div>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-post-title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/nubianconnections.com\/en\/how-long-to-find-a-serious-relationship\/\" target=\"_self\" >How Long Does It Take to Find a Serious Relationship? A Realistic Guide<\/a><\/h2>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt\"><p class=\"wp-block-post-excerpt__excerpt\">Nobody can promise you a date. 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